November 27th, 2011

Gone Too Soon: Gary Speed

Image: AFP PHOTO / ADRIAN DENNIS.

Wales NT manager Gary Speed has been found dead at his home in Chester. A spokesman for Cheshire police has confirmed that Speed, who was 42-years-old, committed suicide and there are no suspicious circumstances surrounding his death.

Please join us in offering our condolences to Gary’s family and friends at this sad time.

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33 Responses to “Gone Too Soon: Gary Speed”

  1. kitty says:

    RIP to a great sportsman, my thoughts & prayers are with his family

  2. DrStrangelove says:

    Numbing.

    I don't really know what to say. It's just massively, massively awful news. I still can't really believe he's dead.

    As has been said a few times, it's not just the loss of a great player and a possibly great manager, but a great man.

    Thoughts are with the family.
    :(

  3. Fatima says:

    RIP GARY!! a wonderful player and manager…was definitely going to take Wales places… my thoughts are with his wife and two children… watched his football focus interview on saturday…who knew what was going through his head that time :'(

  4. elsebethynwa says:

    This is devastating news. Having suffered from depression myself for many years I know exactly where he is coming from. Sometimes life just gets too hard and even though you have plenty to live for you just can't see it. I used to call suicide selfish but that was before I suffered from depression myself. It's terrible for his wife, kids and friends and they will be blaming themselves for many many years. I blamed myself for a friend's suicide for a long long time until i realised that there was nothing i could have done, because she never said anything. Hope his family and friends get all the help they need to learn to cope wth this, because i doubt they will ever get over it

  5. FloraJane says:

    I don't even know what to type really. I am just so sad over this. Aside from normal human compassion, and sadness at such a tragic, and likely preventable, loss I have no reason to be so upset, because I didn't really know much about Gary, but I'm genuinely grieving for him, that a man described by those who knew him as a truly good man, could just be…gone. Just like that. I watched Warren Barton, a friend and former Newcastle teammate of Gary's, openly crying and nearly breaking down several times on a football program here in the US, and that alone spoke volumes about who the man was to the people who knew and loved him. My heart goes out to his friends and family and to those who actually spoke to him or saw him that day or the day before and are surely torturing themselves with 'if only's. The worst part is that there can never be a real answer to the question 'Why?' And maybe Gary didn't even know the answer himself. Just so, so sad….

  6. Kat22 says:

    This is so sad. My heart goes out to Gary, his family and friends. Unfortunately the internet is already full of rumours – whatever the reason for his suicide, I think people should use some tact and leave his loved ones to grieve rather than speculate.

    Also I have read some quite disturbing comments (not on here), i.e. people who commit suicide are selfish and weak. Clearly a lot of people have no idea about depression and what it can do to a person.

    RIP Gary.

    • DebS says:

      "Also I have read some quite disturbing comments (not on here), i.e. people who commit suicide are selfish and weak. Clearly a lot of people have no idea about depression and what it can do to a person."

      Too true. In a way, I'm glad that many people don't understand the pain and despair that depression causes. I would not wish it on anyone. That being said, their ignorance contributes to the stigma that discourages people from seeking help.

      • Kat22 says:

        It's just a touchy subject for me because one of my very close friends has been suffering with severe depression for a long time.

        And you are right when you say people's ignorance contributes to the stigma this illness still carries to this day. Because that's what it is – an illness.

  7. mimi says:

    So sad, R.I.P. Gary…

  8. Sarah, Madrid says:

    RIP Gary! My hearts go to his family and 2 kids :(

  9. xoWinnie says:

    oh my god, this has been a horrible weekend in football!!
    i hate to hear about people committing suicide!
    it makes me feel so awful that anyone could ever feel so helpless,
    feel so much despair, that they could come to this decision,
    and think that it is the best or only way :'(
    i am tearing up just writing this, and i was not even familiar with Gary
    suicide is just such a terrible thing, i can't imagine what his family is going through
    my deepest condolences go out to them

    rest in peace Gary. i hope you've finally found the peace you sought on earth.

  10. bri_saldana says:

    So sorry to hear of this news, God bless his family & may his soul rest peacefully.

  11. JA7 says:

    Such devastating news. It just goes to show we don't truly know what's going with a person. We can be standing right next to someone who's completely broken, but we won't even realize that because it's being covered by a fake smile.
    Rest in peace, Gary Speed.

    • Catie2838 says:

      I was thinking about that all day yesterday – the fake smile, the happy veneer. Gary was loved by everyone, and known for being an upbeat, put-together, remarkable person. It sounds like he was always there for everyone, and I wonder if it made it that much harder for him to confide in others – because he was the one others turned to, so who did he have? I'm not saying that people weren't there for him (no, he would have a country at his feet ready to help), rather that maybe he didn't know it or didn't feel he should bother others with what was going on. If you're used to being the pillar of strength for those around you, what are you to do when you begin to fall?

  12. informediknow says:

    Absolutely gutted. I remember him from his NUFC days….how he used to totally dominate the midfield. And he turned the Welsh team around so brilliantly. WHY? it doesn't matter though, RIP Speedo. God bless your soul with the peace that eluded you in your short life here on earth.

  13. chelseahannah981 says:

    How very, very sad. My thoughts and prayers are with his family. What a tragic loss to the footballing world. Rest in peace.

  14. tough crowd! says:

    Such a tragic and unfortunate news, especially the fact that he could have gotten help. Unbelievable, i hope he finds the peace he was looking for!

  15. gillianrosh says:

    Up early this am (US Central time), and this was one of the first things I read about on my Twitter feed. So sad. I pray for his family and friends in this time of grief.

  16. Catie2838 says:

    This is such heartbreaking news :'( . Many have already mentioned this, but depression in sports really does get overlooked. I feel like the average person, whether they've experienced depression or not, understands that is a very real, very serious thing. So it boggles my mind as to why that can't translate into the sports arena.

    Your time here was short Speedo, but in that time what you have accomplished and, more importantly, the lives that you touched speak volumes to who you were. RIP Gary.

  17. Mariëlla says:

    First the deaths in Togo and now Gary. It is so sad I feel very sorry for all his loved ones and I will pray for his soul

  18. xbabyshakesx says:

    So heartbreaking, prayers to his family and friends.

  19. suzie says:

    So tragic!!!!! Gary was my 1st footballer crush, such a great man and footballer. Thoughts and prayers to his wife and 2 kids. R.I.P Gary you will be greatly missed.

  20. Tanyddraig says:

    As a Welsh girl I am completely devastated by this. Gorffwys mewn hedd cariad, you were a legend in the Premier League and in our national team and your legacy will live on. Come on now boys, lets have an awesome 2014 qualifying campaign for Gary xx

  21. Rachael says:

    Heartbreaking news that leaves you bewildered. It’s been a sad time in football with recent events my thoughts and prayers to everyone who’s lives have been shattered. May they find the love and strength to start picking up the pieces.x

  22. smellslikeateamspirit says:

    Hopefully this will raise the important issue, of depression in professional sport the stigma attached to it is society is bad enough, but in the football bubble it’s ridiculous, players and managers are routinely crucified by the press and abused ruthlessly by fans . Unfortunately it takes a tragic lose like this to raise the issue. RIP.

    • Thea says:

      Wow – took the words out of my mouth. Depression is an awful affliction and nobody should ever feel too proud to ask for help.

      He was a gentlemen footaller who showed an ambundance of class, especially during his Everton tenure.

    • DebS says:

      Well said. Most people don't realize that depression is more than just being sad. It is actually a chemical imbalance in the brain. Unfortunately, the stigma attached to depression leads people to believe that only a weak person gets depression or cannon pull themselves out of it. It is particularly true for men.

      Education is key. Unfortunately, I have to believe that the signs & symptoms of his depression and it's severity were there but people did not know the signs & symptoms to watch for. People have a predisposition for depression when others in their family suffer from it. I hope that the family will keep watch for signs in the children. One tragedy is enough for this family. :(

      My sympathies and prayers to his family & friends. RIP Mr. Speed. I'm sorry that death was the only way that you knew to stop the pain.

  23. Mrs. Q.Borri says:

    Omg!! I couldnt beleive what Im reading… I remember him like yesterday!

    R.I.P. Forever and ever.

    The mental health needs to get work on, because things like this can keep happening. Period.

    Rest in Peace again! :'(

  24. earidurt says:

    OMG. :( this is soo incredibly sad. my thoughts and prayers are with his family, friends, fans and of course the Welsh national team who I am sure must be beside themselves with grief. R.I.P.

  25. blake2108 says:

    I am absolutely devastated.

    Gary Speed played in the first game I ever went to see live. He scored the only goal. For that alone I'll always remember him.

    I'm not Welsh, but a lover of their National Team, and they were doing so well under him. Such a shame.

    This also calls for more to be done regarding mental health/illness in football. I'm not suggesting anything about Speed's death, but issues such as depression in football and sport in general are not dealt with properly. People like Robert Enke and others should not see this as the only way out. Something needs to be done about this.

    But not right now. Now is a time to mourn, think of those who knew and loved Gary, especially his wife and children, and remember the great player, manager and person Gary Speed was.

    Rest in peace Speedo
    xx

  26. Hot4Spurs says:

    So sad to hear that this morning. I feel so bad for his family and friends. I hear Craig Bellamy is so shaken up that he has asked to not even be added to the sqaud sheet today.

  27. IrishBlue says:

    Just so sad, it's hard to believe it. I was only watching him live on tv on Football Focus yesterday. He had so much going for him, it really goes to show we don't know what is going on behind closed doors. The poor guy, devastating news for his family, friends and everyone who loves football. :'-(